soulful guidance
for healing relationship trauma
and creating deeper connections
Your past doesn’t define you.
You can transform painful relationship experiences into seeds for a joyful future. Healing the hurts from childhood trauma and past relationships requires reclaiming what’s been lost.
Experiencing relationship trauma affects your ability to:
• trust yourself and others
• listen to yourself
• feel connected to yourself
• feel safe being vulnerable with others
• confidently know what you think and how you feel
• care for yourself the way you deserve
• have a clear sense for what’s normal and healthy in romantic relationships
• know that you are fully and completely deserving of being treated well in relationships
Most importantly, relationship trauma can cause you to lose touch with your innate goodness and wholeness. But there’s hope.
Dream analysis
We are now offering dream analysis sessions for individuals. Dream analysis is a powerful tool for emotional healing, trauma recovery, personal growth, and connecting with your inner guidance. It’s also a way to uncover patterns that are creating issues in your relationships with others.
Discover the Five Relationship Archetypes
Your Relationship Archetype is like your “relationship personality”—it’s who you are and how you express yourself in relationships. It reflects your basic blueprint of how relationships work, based on what you learned in childhood. Your Relationship Archetype influences the kind of partners you’re drawn toward, as well as the kinds of challenges you’re likely to encounter in your relationships.
Curious what your Relationship Archetype is? Take the quiz HERE.
THE RELATIONSHIP
YES! TEST
THE CHECKLIST FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
The Relationship Yes! Test™ is a simple, five question checklist on the five essential ingredients for a healthy relationship. It provides quick, accurate information about the current health of your relationship.
It’s designed to help those with a past history of trauma or painful experiences from childhood to identify what’s working (and what might not be working) in your relationships.
alchemy of connection podcast
Season One
get started with our free relationship class
WE’re not born knowing how to communicate in relationships.
For many of us, we missed out on learning healthy communication skills during childhood. Instead of learning how to communicate in ways that allow both people to feel seen, heard, and understood, often we learn patterns of communication that create confusion, hurt, and disconnection. Or we learn that it’s safer to just keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves … and not communicate.
The secret to fulfilling relationships is learning how to connect with another person through communication. You can start learning the art of communication with our free communication class, The Communication Cure.
about us
We help those with painful childhood experiences to heal your relationship with yourself, deeply connect with others, and learn the skills for having fulfilling relationships.
We’re the creators of the Five Relationship Archetypes. We’re also the hosts of the Alchemy of Connection podcast and the creators of the Relationship Yes! Test.
We founded the Institute for Trauma Informed Relationships to provide certification and consultation to therapists and coaches in Trauma Informed Relationship Counseling for Individuals and Couples.
Angela Amias, LCSW
Fulfilling relationships are an essential part of living a good life and yet, many of us (perhaps even most of us) have core wounds from childhood experiences that affect our ability to have the kinds of intimate relationships in adulthood that we long to have. As a licensed therapist, I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them heal past trauma and create more meaningful, satisfying relationships with themselves and with intimate partners.
Alongside Daniel, I developed the Five Relationship Archetypes as a model that reflects the different ways that childhood relationship trauma impacts our adult relationships. This model takes into account our unique and inborn temperaments as well as the kinds of messages we internalize during childhood—about ourselves and how we need to be in order to have relationships with others. And, more importantly, it lays out a path toward healing, by first helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself that you lost along the way … parts that weren’t accepted or safe to express when you were growing up.
It’s my belief that difficult experiences break us open to become more of who we are meant to be. As a trauma survivor myself, and as a therapist, I’ve made it my mission to walk alongside others as you find your path toward healing and discovering a life of more meaning and joy.
I’ve been a featured relationship expert in many publications, including Today, Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, The Independent, Salon, Inc., Forbes, Toronto Sun, Women’s Health, Refinery29, and many others.
You can read my full bio HERE.
Daniel Boscaljon, PHD
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. It’s also true that your connections with others can never be better than your relationship with yourself, which is why healing painful or traumatic experiences from childhood is such a vital part of having meaningful, satisfying relationships in adulthood.
My own personal search for how to cultivate a meaningful life came after years of feeling disconnected from others and from myself. Though I entered graduate school focused on the intellectual aspects of earning a PhD in Religious Studies (and then another one in English), I discovered along the way how to use what I learned to repair the inner fractures of my own life. As I reconnected with myself, I found that I was better able to connect with others as well.
As an award-winning teacher with over twenty year of experience working with individuals and couples, my mission is to translate theories of love into practical guidance that helps you create meaningful, fulfilling relationships. I’ve presented internationally on the topics of love and intimacy.
As a relationship expert, I’ve been featured in many publications, including NBC News, Newsweek, Harper’s Bazaar, MindBodyGreen, Forbes, Salon, Fast Company, Business Insider, Verywell Mind, and AskMen.
What’s Your Relationship Archetype?
Take the Five Relationship Archetypes quiz and find out how to use your unique gifts to create deeper, more satisfying relationships.
Featured blog posts
Relationship workshops
For Individuals and Couples
relationship reboot
5 week program. You began with the dream of happily ever after. Now discover a life that’s happier than ever. Relationship Reboot will remind you why you said yes in the beginning and give you new reasons to keep saying yes.
$197
RElationshiP Communication 101
6 week program. Good communication is essential if you want to have a healthy relationship. Learn all the communication skills you need to help your relationship thrive. Consider this class the Relationship Education you never got in school.
$197
Date night movie of the month Club
6 month program. When you’re wanting to be more connected in your relationship, sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. We’ve transformed the old standby of dinner and a movie into a monthly experience you’ll not only enjoy—it will also deepen your relationship.
$127
Love Takes Many Forms.
We’re committed to expressing our love for the world by giving back to those most in need. That’s why we donate 10% of our profits from program sales to charity.
